My Grandma is one tough lady! So, we have known a long time ago that she suffered from dementia but just recently has it taken a big effect on her life. Beware if my grandma is in her demented upset mood do not get in her way because she might just hit you with her walker. Since her dementia has gotten to the red zone, where she doesnt know there is something wrong with her and she is being violent, we decided that the best choice for her was to send her to a hospital to help get her on some medication. It will help calm her anxiety and hopefully decrease her dementia without taking her spirit away. So, the next few weeks we will see how it all goes. Luckily, she still knows me and my mom but thinks her husband is alive. Let me just say with a disease like dementia you cant just be upset about it and let it bring you down. Yeah, it is sad to watch but it is something you just got to laugh at the stories she tells you because it is one of the best ways to cope with the situation.
Sorry to hear about your grandma. Like you said you can not let it bring you or your mom down. So always keep up your good spirits and give my best regards to your mother.
poor granny… 🙁
SAD FOR YOU AND HER,BUT JUST BE NICE AND REMEMBER HER GOOD DAYS.
It’s a tough situation, my grandma too suffered from dementia towards the end.
I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma.But you people dont loose the hope
stand by her and never leave her alone give her all the comfort and warmth
you could give her and pray to god almighty to bring her back to how she was…….and I think may be the thought that her husband is still alive could give her so much happiness may be you could try not to tell her the truth because that could break her.
Lets all of us pray for her ….and she will get well soon……..
Hi Anna, I hope your grandmother gets some benefit from medication adjustments. Sometimes the right dose can help a lot. You may want to look into herbal solutions too. A simple cup of Chamomile tea and/or a capsule of Valarian with meals is so calming. Both help with sleep. Keep up the loving care as difficult as it can be at times you will look back at your grandmother with love and be glad. Sal
Thanks for taking this photo for me. You really explained the situation perfectly. It helps to listen to her stories as entertainment–otherwise, we’d be crying. Let’s hope the meds help stabilize her, but we are looking at the beginning of the end. Love, m o m
Anna, here’s some info:
http://www.stagesofdementia.net/stages-of-dementia/
I’d say she’s in stage 6
Sad.
When I was a teenager, I had my grand-ma in the same case after the death of my grand-pa.
Step y step, the dementia was growing.
She though we were spies or devils and wanted to poison her and sometimes I was afraid she hit us with a knife during our sleep. She refused to wash herself.
Unfortunately, one day she fled away from our home and was found half-naked in the street and send to an hospital.
She was in really good health despite her age.
In hospital, they linked her wrists and ankles tothe bed!
And one week after her arrival to the general hospital, she died 🙁
My recently turned 90 and for the last 7 years she has been in a nursing home because of dementia. I hope you will take every opportunity to learn from her when she is lucid. I failed to spend enough time with her the first couple of years when Mom knew my brother and me. Now she doesn’t know anyone…even her roommate. Thank you for your blog. I think you are a very talented writer and photographer. I proud to say you are my best friend on SU too. Love, Grandpa Jim in NC
I should have reviewed my post. Of course I meant my mom is 90 and that you should talk to your grandma as often as you can. Have a good day, Jim
i am sorry about your grandmother but as long as you continue to love and care for she she is very lucky. you might want to record her stories for the future and keep taking pictures of her hopefully medication will help ! you have an awesome family and i am sure you and your mom will be able to deal with this. god bless all of you.
The anti combative meds can really make a difference. I hope they work for your grandmother. I’m going through this journey with my Dad and it’s really something, isn’t it? Stay strong, good luck and thank you for sharing your story. Keep blogging- I’ll be reading.